Have a Blessed Day

This weekend I learned that if you bring up this phrase when I am with a group of family and friends I will start spouting, and all the people that love me will just giggle at my sudden passionate outburst.

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I do have a (possibly irrational) extreme negative reaction to this phrase. I have traditionally defended myself by saying I think it is a subtle yet pervasive form of prosthelytizing. While I do think this is true, I think it is not the true reason I get so unbelievably fussed about the whole thing. I have been analyzing my feelings for a couple of weeks, ever since I had this conversation (as close as I can remember it):

Me (to guy on corner every day): Hey, how are you?
Guy on corner: Good, how are you?
Me: I’m well
Guy: Have a blessed day
Me (turning around to say something after months of this interaction): Can I tell you something?
Guy: Sure
Me: It really bothers me when you tell me to have a blessed day
Guy: Why?
Me: It seems presumptuous and a little condescending, like you are assuming you know what kind of day I need more than I do
Guy: Oh, that is not what I mean
Me: OK, what do you mean
Guy: I mean I want you to have a blessed day
Me: Maybe I don’t want to be blessed by your god
Guy: But I want you to have a good day
Me: Then tell me to have a good day

Now every day I get a very pointed “Have a good day”. I wish he would stand somewhere else.

When I tell most friends about this pet peeve (aside from the group that giggles at me) I am told that I am being too sensitive. I should apparently just take the good intentions of the well wishes and move on. That being an apparently unattainable goal for me, I am trying to at least know myself better and understand why my shoulders tense and I grit my teeth.

List of possible reasons:
1) Prosthelytizing (inherently bothersome to me). Even more so, I kind of feel it is an especially emotionally manipulative sort, because people mean well.
2) Assumption that others share your belief. It seems to just alienate people.
3) Presumption that you know better than I do what kind of day I need. It feels patronizing and condescending.

Well, writing that down made it clear that it really is #3 that irks me so. The first two are most assuredly negative things in my world, but man, if someone talks down to me I just fill with seething anger.

Also, I liked this person’s write up on the issue. They may have written it all better than I.

Feel free to disagree, to come up with other reasons it is annoying, whatever floats your boat. Personally, I am happy to have clarified a bit of my thinking.

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Sometimes I need to crochet

I do not always need to rant, just sometimes. I started this blog to get my rantiness out, but also with the thought of putting some other things I do out there. This is me doing that:

The other night I had a big fun time out with friends, and I got a few compliments on my fingerless gloves. This made me happy as not only did I make them, it is also a pattern I came up with. I wanted them to be pretty with some texture to the stitch, but not so much texture that there were big holes that would fail to keep my hands warm. Here are a couple of not so great pictures I just took with my Ipad:

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And here is the pattern should you want to try it out (I used a G hook, the size of the gloves varies as to what yarn I use):

Chain 13
Row 1: Skip 1, sc 12
Row 2: Ch 1, sc 12 back loops only…12 sc
Row 3-36 repeat row 2

Turn on side, sl stitch together to make tube.
Row 1: ch 1, sc 36 across, sl stitch to first sc…..36
Row 2: ch 1, sc 36 across, sl stitch to first sc…..36
Row 3: ch 1, *7 sc, sc 2 together*, repeat 3 times, sl stitch…..32
Row 4: ch 1, sk 1, *3 dc in next, sk 1, sc, sk 1*, repeat 6 times, 3 dc in next, sl st to ch…..8 shells, 8 sc
Row 5: ch 3, *sc in top of shell, ch 1, dc in sc, ch 1*, repeat 6 times, sc in top of shell, ch 1, sl st to 2nd in chain…..32
Row 6: ch 3, dc in same, sk 1, *sc, sk 1, 3 dc in next, sk 1*, repeat 6 times, sc, sk 1, dc, join with sl stitch….8 shells, 8 sc
Row 7: 2 ch, *dc in sc of last row, ch 1, sc in center dc of last row shell, ch 1*, repeat 6 times, dc, ch 1, sl st to 1st chain last row……… 32
Row 8-11 repeat rows 4-7
Row 9: ch 1, sk 1, 5 dc in next, sk 1, sc, sk 1, 5 dc in next,*sc, sk 1, 3 dc in next, sk 1*, repeat 5 times, sl st to ch 1…….8 shells, 8 sc
Row 10: ch 4, sc in top of shell, ch 2, dc in sc between shells, ch 2, sc in top of shell, ch 2, *dc, ch 1, sc top of shell, ch 1* repeat 5 times, sl st to 1st ch……36
Row 11: ch 3, 2 dc in same, *sc, 5 dc*, repeat once, *sc, 3 dc* repeat 4 times, sc, 2dc, sl st to 3rd ch…….8 shells, 8 sc
Row 12: ch 3, *dc in between shells, ch 2, sc, ch 2*, repeat once, *dc, ch 1, sc, ch 1*, repeat 4 times, dc, ch 2, sl st to first ch……38
Row 13: ch 1, 7 tr, sc, 7 tr, *sc, 3 dc* repeat 5 times, sl st……..8 shells, 8 sc
Row 14: ch 3, sk 1, hd in next, ch 1 sk 1, sc in next, ch 1 sk 1, hd, ch 1 sk 1, tr in next, ch 1 sk 1, hdc, ch 1 sk 1, sc, ch 1 sk 1, hdc, ch 1 sk 1, *dc, ch 1, sc top of shell*, repeat 5 times, ch, sl st to 2nd ch……
Row 15: 3 ch, 1dc in same, *sk 1, sc, so 1, 3 dc*, repeat 8 times, sk 1, sc, sk 1, dc, sl st to 3rd ch…….10 shell, 10 sc
Row 16: 2 ch, sk 1, hdc, ch 3 sk 3 shells, hdc in sc between shells, ch, *sc on top of shell, ch, dc, ch*, repeat 5 times, sl stint 1st ch…..32
Row 17: ch 1, sk 1, *3 dc in next, sk 1, sc, sk 1*, repeat 6 times, 3 dc in next, sl st to ch…..8 shells, 8 sc
Row 18: ch 3, *sc in top of shell, ch 1, dc in sc, ch 1*, repeat 6 times, sc in top of shell, ch 1, sl st to 2nd in chain…..32
Row 19: ch 3, dc in same, sk 1, *sc, sk 1, 3 dc in next, sk 1*, repeat 6 times, sc, sk 1, dc, join with sl stitch….8 shells, 8 Sc
Row 20: 2 ch, *dc in sc of last row, ch 1, sc in center dc of last row shell, ch 1*, repeat 6 times, dc, ch 1, sl st to 1st chain last row……… 32

If anyone actually tries it let me know! I tested it once or twice, but I am bad at paying attention to written directions….even if I wrote them.

Also, I want people to feel free to make and sell these if they want. I would like credit for the pattern, and for other people to not sell it. I love the idea of crafters sharing and crediting each other, so:
Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike licence

I said I was not going to do this

Syria. Writing about it feels like opening a can of worms, but the whole idea of this blog is to get things off my chest without pissing off people I know on Facebook and the like. So, on to my frustrated rant, which can be summed up as “get the damn issue straight”:

From what I understand the issue is not Assad vs rebels. The issue is should we issue a punitive strike aimed at Assad for using chemical weapons. It seems most of my Facebook feed is confused about this, 2 examples:
“I don’t understand how bombing the people of Syria is going to help them escape an evil dictator” (It won’t, and is not supposed to)
“If an alligator and crocodile were in a fight it wouldn’t matter which one you helped. No matter what you’d still have a 1000 pound monster that wants nothing more than to bite your face off. Ladies and gentleman(sic), I give you Syria.” (Aaaagh, not the issue. One could validly argue that punitive bombing of one side is by extension helping the other side, but I do not see many people going that deep.)

Another thing that the issue is not is should we as a country spend money on bombing Syria or on education/cleaning up our own cities/whatever domestic issue is important to you.

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(Money not spent on bombing Syria does not equal money well spent domestically)

Foreign and domestic issues are inherently different.

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In reference to Obama’s 2008 comment “They get bitter, they cling to guns or religion or antipathy to people who aren’t like them or anti-immigrant sentiment or anti-trade sentiment as a way to explain their frustrations.”. (Apples and oranges, IMO)

Historical situations can help instruct us, but it is rarely an exact comparison.

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(Every situation needs to be looked at individually. Plus, I feel like I have seen more evidence of Assad *using* chemical weapons than I ever saw of Saddam *having* them)

The number of people I have seen publicly wondering why we as a society were talking about Miley Cyrus instead of Syria is staggering. The thing I found really interesting was that in my Internet world I did not see anyone actually talking about Miley Cyrus, just bitching about people talking about it. (I have two issues with this. If it is such a problem for you, stop perpetuating it! Also, I watched the VMA clip since everyone told me I should not be distracted by it and I found some really interesting racial discussions worth having wrapped up in the whole debacle.)

It seems that there is more condescension and antagonism than actual discussion. If I see a link that is titled “morons” I will assume that the person posting said link has no interest in understanding or discussing the issue at hand, they want a circle jerk of agreement. If you actually want to ‘get information out there’ don’t be mean in the presentation.

I could keep going with examples of my frustration, but I think it is time to stop that section of the blog. I would like to point out that quotes and pics were all pulled off my Facebook feed from liberals and conservatives alike. I am an equal opportunity ranter.

In the interests of full disclosure I will put my view out there. Start with the fact that I consider myself extremely liberal. I was fully opposed to the Iraq war. Imagine my surprise to find myself in support of bombing Syria (specifically Assad). The way I see it is I do not want to live in a world where chemical and nuclear weapons are considered a viable alternative. Without repercussions for using them I think they will be used more. I thought it should go through the UN, but with political alliances that won’t really work. I will not claim to be totally educated on every facet of the issue. In fact, I would love to be more educated by having intelligent discussions, change my view! Instead I find myself so distracted by antagonism and strawman arguments that I am no longer focused on learning about the issue. Hopefully letting it all out here will ease that ranty part of brain and I can get back to actual thinking.

Or, I could just stop looking at Facebook.